The Two Rules of Life
How to be Fulfilled
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Today’s topic forces us to face two rules that govern our lives. The first is evolutionary biology, and the second is soul maturation. We’ll see how ignoring these two rules creates chaos in society and how understanding, appreciating, and embracing them creates fulfillment.
A quick caveat before we get going: This topic is going to make many people uncomfortable, and my intent isn’t to offend. I’m trying, without moral claims, to understand how the world works and what that means for us humans. If you feel triggered, that’s a good thing, and you should lean in on that to better understand yourself. Don’t forget to check the footnotes for references and other observations.
This investigation started with a simple question:
Why are so many women offended when it’s suggested that bearing and raising children is not only fulfilling but fundamentally core to her existence?
Already, I can hear the rustles as some women grab their Handmaid Tales1 protest dresses and men lean forward, ready to white knight. But let’s look at the first of two rules that govern our existence: evolutionary biology.
Evolutionary Biology
We are hairless monkeys, a prey animal that evolved into an apex predator, only fully extant in our current biological form for a mere 200,000 years, and coming into a semblance of history about 12,000 years ago. Even if you stretch back further, as some of the recent evidence is suggesting, you still only get civilization for 20,-25,000 years. A rounding error on the long path of evolution. For context, if all of Earth's time were the length of a football field, human existence is the final blade of grass.
For those of you with a religious foundation, we have to iron something out first: Evolutionary biology is a fact, regardless of our theological bent. Even young-earth creation follows this fundamental rule today because it’s how nature operates. The fantastic book The Science of God explores how both evolutionary biology and Biblical creation aren’t at odds.2 To summarize, due to time dilation, it can be both 7 days of creation AND 14 billion years, which is a fascinating study on its own. Another way to think about this is that God created this existence with evolutionary biology as the foundation on which to mature the soul. (more on that later)
I say this because Evolutionary Biology has a core principle that helps us understand who we are: Survival of the Fittest / Natural Selection.3 This principle boils down to the simple fact that, to continue the species, it must successfully reproduce. To continue your lineage and ensure your genes are the fittest and survive, you must reproduce and successfully raise your children so they can reproduce.4
This isn’t trivial. This is one of the most challenging tasks in nature, with hundreds of techniques that work to varying degrees, and the fossil record shows that 99.9% of all life forms that existed didn’t survive the process. We are here because our long line survived.5 Across all animal species, survival of the fittest requires two things:
Reproduction
Resource creation
Due to this, we see a physical and psychological/behavioral bifurcation between males and females across most species.6 Only females can build the offspring. In internally gestating animals, the male supplies his genetics, and the female grows that into a baby. It’s no exaggeration to say that the survival of our species rests in the woman’s hips. If she doesn’t bear offspring, we fail the rule of evolutionary biology.7
To emphasize how non-trivial this is, childbirth is incredibly vulnerable and resource-intensive. Nature has bestowed humans with a great big brain and a prefrontal cortex that can reason, giving us a moral layer that might be rebelling at this conversation so far. This great big brain causes two things to happen: first, the mother’s hips have to widen significantly more than those of other primates, and second, the baby has to be born incredibly premature compared to other animals.
The implications for females are important as their bodies are designed in a perfect balance of birthing a baby and being able to run away from a tiger… barely, while burdening them with raising children who aren’t independent until puberty. This vulnerability results in extensive psychological coding. Quite literally, she bears all of the risk of reproduction and childbirth, which, until recently, was the largest cause of premature female death.8
This is why, if the male wants to ensure his genes pass into the future, he has to assist the female in her success. Since he cannot create the child, the only thing he can do is provide resources and protection. (which includes white knighting) This is why humans are a body dimorphic species. Women are smaller in stature with their muscle distribution centered on their hips, while men are larger in stature with denser bones and muscles, centered on their chests. We even know the generally preferred ratios and have named them the Venus and Adonis Indexes.
Psychology is also impacted, where women, on the Big 5 Personality Test, have generally higher anxiety, while men do not. This helps the women sense and avoid danger and keep their children alive, why allowing men to walk into danger in order to gain resources. Women are also more agreeable, which helps them get along with other women when they’re communally tending to the demands of babies, while men will disagree, challenge, and demand more resources. These are all evolutionary adaptations that maximize survival. Simplified:
The female is optimized for reproduction.
The male is optimized for resource creation.
To pin this one down, it’s important to note that nearly all markers of beauty reflect those two. What we call beautiful9 are core indicators of reproductive health and resource production health. Women’s ‘Rule of Sixes’ (Six Foot, Six Pack, Six Figures) is founded on evolutionary biology as they all indicate their potential for resource creation and protection as they consider him as a mate. Likewise, men’s Triple-F rule (Fit, Feminine, and Friendly) all tap into the physiology and psychology we just discussed.
All of this is logical because reproduction, especially in humans, takes a lot of resources. That’s why men play such a large role there. They’re the ones exploring new lands, digging into the ground for gold, hunting large game that can feed the tribe (and can also kill you), putting in 80 hours a week to grow a business, and constantly pushing, angling, and advocating for more resources.10
When we think of a workaholic, it's normally a father, and it’s interesting to note that married men drive the majority of the perceived pay gap, where single men earn roughly equal pay to women, while married men earn far more. I don’t think it’s a stretch to suggest that the demand for resources to produce those offspring is a driver of that gap.11
This is where we hit the crux of the situation, where both the male’s resource creation and the female’s reproduction require one thing: Sacrifice.
A woman sacrifices her body in the creation of a new life. Without adequate resources and nutrition, she will literally harvest the necessary components from her own body, which is why bone density, teeth, and hair loss are so common during pregnancy.12 She also sacrifices her youth. Reproduction isn’t kind to the female form, and, based on how much money is spent these days trying to retain/reclaim that form, it’s a sacrifice women fully recognize, even if they’d like to avoid it.
However, a man also sacrifices his body in the creation of resources and protection. Let’s go with the starkest example: War. To protect their society/tribe/family, men, often men who have not yet reproduced, will sacrifice their lives. To put this in context, our DNA represents the genes of 80% of the women across time, but only 40% of the men. Put another way, for every two women who successfully mothered children, only one man was a successful father. Men are expendable and have been used that way to create and protect resources, and that led to different gene expressions, such as teamwork. Men also sacrifice in thousands of ways that are less catastrophic. There’s a reason why women, who survive childbirth, outlive men.
This dual sacrifice has driven thousands of psychological and social structures that emerge from the foundational rules of reproduction and resource creation. Traditions, religions, governments, moralities,13 and more exist to manage it.14 Much of what we rail against, in this resource-rich time, are the structures put in place when things were harder.15
This becomes especially evident when our men aren’t as visibly sacrificing, with some going so far as to suggest being born a man is akin to winning the lottery, or that the structures for men are better, which is a fundamental misunderstanding of both men and women.16 The irony is that it’s been the women who have had the true value and power in evolutionary biology all along, but we ignore that.
So, let’s swing back to the original question: Why are so many women offended when it’s suggested that bearing and raising children is not only amazing as a parent but fundamentally core to her existence?
It boils down to the fact that we think resource creation is more desirable, and this makes sense to a degree. Resources are a sign of status because they are an indication of your probability of successfully reproducing and giving your progeny an advantage in life.
We value resources because they make life easier, and an easier life means more success in raising children. This angst also seems more recent as the means of resource creation became easier with fewer physical demands. Today, women aren’t clambering to work on oil rigs, as plumbers, carpenters, or other dangerous jobs with high injury and mortality rates. The resource creation jobs they desire are ones, like Engineering, which occur in climate-controlled offices where physical strength is not a discriminator.
Even then, women in professional careers still aggregate around care, education, human resources, social services, administrative coordination, and other people-oriented roles, while men are disproportionately represented in engineering, construction, extraction, maintenance, production, transportation, and other things-oriented or physical-systems roles. Even, and especially in the most egalitarian societies, women are biased toward professional roles focused on nurturing and resource management,17 while men are biased toward resource creation.18
These are the foundational facts, predicated on evolutionary biology with no intent to impart a moral lens. These things just… ‘are’ and male and female biology and psychology are deeply coded around that reality. This is the rule of evolutionary biology. This is what ‘is.’ Females uniquely evolved for successful reproduction, and males uniquely evolved for resource creation.19 You can see this same pattern repeated all over the natural world. That’s evolutionary biology, not patriarchy.
The problem is that our society is imbalanced in valuing only resource creation. As I stated in Rediscovering the Goddess, we believe that “to be a successful woman you must be indistinguishable from a successful man.” But this ignores that our legacy is our progeny. It doesn’t matter how many hours you worked, how many patents you have, how much money you made, or how many books you wrote. If your genetic line terminates with you, that fails the first rule.20 Today, it feels like both men and women have forgotten that a resource only exists to improve the probability of reproduction. It’s a secondary role, not the primary success of evolutionary biology.
If we stop fighting against nature and appreciate the unique roles we have, we can recalibrate our value propositions, support women in their superpowers, and properly align men to create resources. Both require sacrifices that help the species progress, and both provide natural fulfillment.
The inevitable protests of these facts typically contain the language of ‘could,’ ‘should,’ and ‘ought,’ but this is moral language, not biological. It demonstrates our drive to improve the world around us, something that other animals don’t do. Fun fact: humans are the only species that intentionally conserves its environment. It’s enough of a difference from the natural that it appears nearly supernatural. This is where the second rule comes in regarding spiritual soul maturation.
Soul Maturation
Now that we’ve got a solid foundation in evolutionary biology and how that rule governs our corporal existence, let’s pivot to something more spiritual, because we do have this big brain with a hypersensitive moral compass. That morality manifests itself as a religious psychology. We all have it, even the most ardent atheist, and it emotes religious behaviors.
My belief is that there is more to life than the mere corporal evolutionary biology we just explored. It’s a topic I wrote about in Reincarnation Sounds Awesome, where the idea of a soul journey was introduced. To summarize, we are here, in a corporal existence, to mature our souls. We are not born inherently good, with clear morals. We may have moral language, but that doesn’t mean we have mature souls. This soul maturation provides meaning and aspiration beyond mere reproductive success.
Before the pitchforks of heretic hunters emerge, let’s consider two things.
Nothing in any religious text contradicts this. Even the Christian Bible talks about dying, rebirth, an old and new kingdom, of Sheol and the resurrection of the dead, of cycles of life, and the word Torah is rooted in improving ourselves.
Nothing in evolutionary biology can deny this. In fact, our inclination to religious psychology has formed structures for reproduction and resource creation that have exploded our population, social systems, and societies from hunter-gatherers to today. Our great ape cousins, without this moral layer, have not done so.
Key to the journey is that there are different soul maturation levels. As I wrote previously, “I’m going to wager it follows the Pareto Principle, where you have 80% who are in the ‘younger’ bucket, 19% in the ‘mid-aged’ bucket, and 1% who are old souls.” This means that we have a lot of young souls sitting on an evolutionary biological foundation, and are having difficulty resolving the two. The ‘could,’ ‘should,’ and ‘ought’ are running straight into the first rule that ‘is.’
But our soul maturation requires synthesizing the two. We both have to successfully achieve the rule of evolutionary biology AND the rule of soul maturation. The journey of souls notes that this isn’t a single chance on this mortal coil, but continued growth over lives. The core principle here is that the “I” ego has to mature into the “Us” ego.
A successful man must mature by dying to himself, embracing the sacrifice, and working in union with his wife to create resources, build systems that protect, and mature the next generations. He must die to himself to be reborn for that sacrifice.
A successful woman must mature by sacrificing herself, creating life itself, nurturing, growing, and managing resources that mature the next generation.
Together, this is the Yin and the Yang of balance. It’s not about dominance or subjugation. It’s not about better or worse. It’s about two halves, biologically coded for complementing survival, coming together into a whole.21 It’s about the “I” growing toward the “Us,” and when we recognize that, our souls can mature.
Conversely, consider that much of the angst about this conversation is largely from what I might call less mature souls.22 Their energy isn’t as focused, their experience is less refined, and they are struggling with the “I” ego that both nature and the soul journey demand must be sacrificed. The result is men chasing women, feeding their base desires, never striving for something else, and avoiding growth. Similarly, we have women chasing resource creation, fighting their nurturing inclinations, and living in angst. Both are failing at soul maturation and are stuck in the “I” ego.23
The Synthesis
On the one hand, we have the rule of evolutionary biology, which codes a world that is bound by physics and demands reproduction and resource creation to overcome entropy and evolve. On the other hand, we have a moral and spiritual consciousness that differentiates us from that first rule, but does not separate us from it. Each incarnation into this world provides an opportunity for us to mature our souls.
If we fail to recognize the first rule, we’ll live in a world of make-believe where reality (biology) keeps happening, and our refusal to embrace that leads to a life of frustration, worry, and disappointment. Nature will always violate ‘could,’ ‘should,’ and ‘ought.’ Nature isn’t nice, and humans, regardless of our prefrontal cortex, aren’t as far separated from our lizard brain and ape cousins as we’d like to think.
If we fail to recognize the second rule, we’ll live life with nihilism and meaninglessness. We won’t recognize that the struggle is the point and that resiliency requires stress. Our religious psychology will jump from one ‘religion’ to another, desperately hoping to be right, without realizing this hope is wrong because it’s about growth, not correctness.
Currently, it feels like we are at a time when we are ignoring both! The world is more atheistic than ever, and at the same time, our modern cultures are ignoring biological reality more. The result is profound with significant declines in sex, marriage, and family formation starting with Millennials and accelerating with Gen Z.24
We have more sexual, relational, employment, and cultural freedoms than ever before, yet teens report less sexual intercourse, more young adults report no recent sex, fewer young people expect marriage and children, birth rates are falling fastest among younger women, and young adults report elevated depression, anxiety, loneliness, financial dependence, and delayed independent living, among other poor mental-health indicators.25
We are failing at both soul maturity and evolutionary biology.26
However, I think the adage, “hard times make strong men, strong men create good times, good times create weak men, weak men create hard times,” rings true.27 This isn’t the first time we’ve had this cycle; though, I think this is the first time we’ve had it so broadly across the world. The consequence I’d like to avoid is a pendulum swing to another extreme as the United Kingdom is risking with immigrants from rigid ideologies, not assimilating to Western values, but forcing Western values to assimilate to them. I don’t want to live under tyrannical systems.
This is why balancing the two rules is so critically important. Yes, we are hairless monkeys with a lizard brain, physical dimorphism, crazy sexual selection patterns, and biology that optimizes between reproduction and resource creation. Yes, we have a consciousness that houses a soul that all religious traditions focus on maturing.
Balancing also matures us from the “I” to the “Us,” where cooperation replaces competition, societies flourish, relationships grow, and life evolves. We are natural, and we are supernatural. Finding that balance is the key to a fulfilling life.
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What’s really ironic about this is that The Handmaid’s Tale is a matriarchy, enforced by the patriarchy, but the men don’t like it. The Commander breaks the law to take Offred to a club so he can treat her like a human while having sex. The driver, another man, and his friends are who save Offred and her child. The book is also an insane female flex of fertility where the Handmaids from all socioeconomic statuses “cuck” the wives of powerful men. The book celebrates female fertility and weaponizes it against authoritarian cultures. The Testaments, it’s sequal, doubles down on how the women enforced the situation. If you're curious how it can be a matriarchy, check out this great essay on how the same is true for Islamic cultures: Islamic Feminism & Muslim Matriarchy
If you’ve studied the parallels of Biblical creation to the other major religions, you find that their stories are not so different at all. In fact, most of the language of Genesis 1 is borrowed from the Egyptian creation myths. It’s also a poem, not a science textbook.
Darwin modified this to be Natural Preservation because we aren’t talking about an active agent making a selection. I’m sticking with Selection because it’s more familiar to everyone.
“It is not the strongest of the species that survives, nor the most intelligent, but the one most adaptable to change.” - Charles Darwin
With that come a few interesting things. First, our low brain is called the ‘Lizard Brain’ for a reason: all of our highfalutin’ cognitive, reasoning, and moral capabilities are a very late evolutionary addition that separates us from even our closest primate cousins. The layers of the brain are the adaptive structures that proved the most successful in our survival, and many of our base instincts are very base indeed.
I’m going to use male and female to refer to sex, and men and women/mothers and fathers to refer to human roles. One is biological, the other is cultural.
This challenge is both individual, societal, and species. If I don’t procreate and successfully raise my progeny to do the same, my genome will not continue. The same goes for a society. We are seeing the problem emerge in Japan, Korea, and Europe, where entire cultures are teetering because, if there is no one to carry the traditions on, they will go extinct.
For those unable to have children or have lost them, see Footnote 26.
There’s also an issue today where elective c-sections are causing mother’s hips to narrow and babies heads to grow. This is especially bad in Brazil where, if they lose acccess to advanced medical care, estimates of up to 60% birthing fatalities are projected!
There are different twists on this one where, in certain Bedouin and African tribes, obese women are preferred, but this is where the markers for resource production outweigh reproduction. Obese people in resource-limited environments signal wealth. The same goes for certain high-maintenance behaviors around fingernails, plastic surgery, and more. Many find the results to be unattractive, but the larger point is that they/their partner has enough resources to waste on the extravagance.
The key point here is that the perceived pay gap between men and women has more to do with men’s willingness to work longer, harder, stretch to new roles, take on new responsibilities, and be disagreeable enough to advocate for more pay or to leave for better compensation. Supporting sources include:
Goldin, C. (2014). “A Grand Gender Convergence: Its Last Chapter.” American Economic Review.
Bertrand, M., Goldin, C., & Katz, L. F. (2010). “Dynamics of the Gender Gap for Young Professionals in the Financial and Corporate Sectors.”
Canon, M. E., Golan, L., & Smith, C. A. (2021). “Understanding the Gender Earnings Gap.” Federal Reserve Bank of St. Louis.
Bolotnyy, V., & Emanuel, N. (2022). “Why Do Women Earn Less Than Men? Evidence from Bus and Train Operators.” Journal of Labor Economics.
Blau, F. D., & Kahn, L. M. (2017). “The Gender Wage Gap: Extent, Trends, and Explanations.” Journal of Economic Literature.
Supporting sources include:
Vandenbroucke, Guillaume. “Married Men Outearn Single Men and Women as a Whole.” Federal Reserve Bank of St. Louis, Dec. 24, 2018.
Peake, Makenzie. “Observing the Earnings Gap through Marital Status, Race, and Gender.” The Regional Economist, Federal Reserve Bank of St. Louis, 2019.
U.S. Bureau of Labor Statistics. Highlights of Women’s Earnings in 2024. BLS Reports, 2025.
Cha, Youngjoo, Kim A. Weeden, and Landon Schnabel. “Is the Gender Wage Gap Really a Family Wage Gap in Disguise?” American Sociological Review 88, no. 6, 2023, 972–1001.
If you want to know why so many cultures value long, thick hair and beards, it’s because it’s a sign of health and resources. It represents a visual health indicator that looks back several years. Long, thick, healthy hair represents years of good resources. I currently have a sizeable beard and, because it’s uncommon these days, I get a TON of comments about how good it looks. It unlocks something ancient in our psyche.
This includes the common moral posturing of women. Current feminism is a luxury belief that defacto assumes men have privilege over women but that only exists if we assume men are not sacrificing more than women. That may be true today. It also assumes that the male structures are more valuable. The bigger issue is the language that’s used and the soft-power dynamics that exist to avoid critique as Libby Eaton demonstrates here:
It should be noted that, historically, the wealth of even the ‘Robber Barrons,’ unless they put it in a managed trust, was squandered less than four generations later.
Just to note two seemingly contradicting traditions of a dowry and a bride-price. Both are predicated on another biological reality: the family raising children bears responsibility for their successful procreation. A boy must be raised to be a resource producer, and the woman must be protected and cared for if she is pregnant. As such:
A bride price shows that the man has enough resource creation capability to ensure the success of the woman. It also provides resources to her family, where, if the man abandons the daughter, the family has a ‘nest egg’ to care for her and her children.
A dowry is more complicated but appears to have emerged because women historically married the next older generation. This ensured the man had 10 years to generate resources for his future children. Put another way, a 20-year-old man has fewer resources than a 30-year-old man. However, if, perhaps due to war, your productive generation was significantly reduced, your daughter will likely marry a younger, less productive man. The dowry was an investment in a 20-year-old that might boost them to the asset class of a 30-year-old, thereby helping to ensure he is capable of caring for your daughter.
Both of these are the family’s investment, due to different circumstances, that help ensure the resources are available for the reproductive success of their progeny. This is just one example that’s fascinating to consider and highlights that the consequences of us not recognizing it are profound.
Adding to this conversation is Janice Fiamengo who recently wrote Women Can’t Build Civilization - But they sure can wreck it where she explores that the very same resource management and soft-power community behaviors that enable infant survival, when unleashed into the male-dominated resource creation, end up creating what Mark McGrath | OODA Synthesist would call Guardians of Decay.
Both sexes manage resources. In fact, it takes both men and women to properly manage it. A cursory read of Proverbs quickly shows the strength of the woman described in that management role. This is also where the idea of a woman ‘nesting’ during early pregnancy comes to play. She’s coded to prepare and care for the baby she’s creating. It’s interesting to note that women do gravitate towards this role professionally as well. Everything from Social Work to Teaching, to Human Resources is female-dominated resource management, not resource creation.
Supporting sources include:
U.S. Bureau of Labor Statistics. “Highlights of Women’s Earnings in 2024.” BLS Reports, 2025.
U.S. Bureau of Labor Statistics. “Employed People by Detailed Occupation, Sex, Race, and Hispanic or Latino Ethnicity.” Current Population Survey, 2025 annual averages, published Feb. 2026.
U.S. Bureau of Labor Statistics. “Employed People by Detailed Industry, Sex, Race, and Hispanic or Latino Ethnicity.” Current Population Survey, 2025 annual averages, published Feb. 2026.
National Center for Education Statistics. “Undergraduate Degree Fields.” Condition of Education.
National Science Foundation / National Center for Science and Engineering Statistics. Diversity and STEM: Women, Minorities, and Persons with Disabilities 2023.
Su, R., Rounds, J., & Armstrong, P. I. “Men and Things, Women and People: A Meta-Analysis of Sex Differences in Interests.” Psychological Bulletin, 135(6), 859–884, 2009.
Su, R., & Rounds, J. “All STEM Fields Are Not Created Equal: People and Things Interests Explain Gender Disparities Across STEM Fields.” Frontiers in Psychology, 2015.
Block, K., Croft, A., & Schmader, T. “Worth Less?: Why Men (and Women) Devalue Care-Oriented Careers.” Frontiers in Psychology, 2018.
CDC/NIOSH. “Women in Coal Mining.” NIOSH Science Bulletin, Aug. 22, 2024.
Yes, there is overlap in proclivities. Yes, not ALL men and not ALL women, it’s a bimodal distribution which means there’s overlap and exceptions. But exceptions don’t disprove the mean and it’s bimodal. I’ll borrow from Helen Pluckrose here to explain:
See Footnote 26 regarding those who are unable to have children or have lost them.
I’ll go out on a limb here and say that it makes sense that an old soul has incarnated in both male and female lives multiple times and has achieved their own internal balance. I’ll proffer that some of the angst may be younger souls, incarnating into a different sex, and reconciling that.
I’m not an old soul, I’m not a young soul. My soul level is not the point, and making it the point would make me a young soul. I’m old enough to know that, but young enough that I can still feel my ego demanding I write this. For me, it’s an exploration.
Religious folks are often stuck in the “I” ego. Descriptions of God and Heaven reflect a God with an “I” Ego as well. Christians describe a God who created this world, puts hairless monkeys on it, and gives them cognition for the sole purpose of glorifying himself as long as they are born in the right region/family to know he exists. Of those who know of his existence, they must believe the right thing, and if they don’t, they burn in hell for eternity because they scorned him, but if they do, they go to heaven where they glorify him for all of eternity. That’s a God manifest from an “I” ego. I feel the Journey of Souls idea reflects the “Us” ego better, as we are all together on this adventure, all learning to mature and return to the source, not to glorify it, but to grow it. Doing that requires destroying my “I” ego.
What’s interesting is seeing conversations around professional women and whether 24 is too young to start wanting a family, especially when so much pressure is put on a career as Abigail Shrier responded to in Tough Love: Am I Too Young to Have a Baby?
Supporting sources include:
Twenge, Jean M., Ryne A. Sherman, and Brooke E. Wells. “Sexual Inactivity During Young Adulthood Is More Common Among U.S. Millennials and iGen: Age, Period, and Cohort Effects on Having No Sexual Partners After Age 18.” Archives of Sexual Behavior 46, 2017, 433–440.
Ueda, Peter, Catherine H. Mercer, Cyrus Ghaznavi, and Debby Herbenick. “Trends in Frequency of Sexual Activity and Number of Sexual Partners Among Adults Aged 18 to 44 Years in the US, 2000–2018.” JAMA Network Open 3, no. 6, 2020, e203833.
Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. “Sexual Risk Behaviors.” CDC, Nov. 22, 2024.
Barroso, Amanda, Kim Parker, and Jesse Bennett. “As Millennials Near 40, They’re Approaching Family Life Differently Than Previous Generations.” Pew Research Center, May 27, 2020.
King, Brittany M. “When and How Often People Marry Changes by Birth Cohort.” U.S. Census Bureau, Aug. 31, 2022.
U.S. Census Bureau. “Fewer Than Half of U.S. Households Are Married-Couple Households.” Dec. 2, 2025.
Osterman, Michelle J. K., Brady E. Hamilton, Joyce A. Martin, Anne K. Driscoll, and Claudia P. Valenzuela. “Births: Final Data for 2023.” National Vital Statistics Reports, National Center for Health Statistics, 2025.
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Livingston, Gretchen. “U.S. Adults in Their 20s and 30s Plan to Have Fewer Children Than in the Past.” Pew Research Center, June 18, 2025.
Pew Research Center. “12th Grade Girls Are Less Likely Than Boys to Say They Want to Get Married Someday.” Nov. 14, 2025.
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National Institute of Mental Health. “Major Depression.” NIMH, 2021 data.
Gallup. “U.S. Depression Rate Remains Elevated.” April 21, 2026.
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There’s also a nuance here: I believe there are times when soul maturation involves the failure of the biological imperative. The couple who can’t conceive, though desperate for it, aren’t necessarily failing in their soul journey. The family who loses their children to war or accident are the same. That’s why it’s a balance, and that’s why I believe we have more than one incarnation.
If, at this point in the article, I have to explain the gender neutrality of this statement, this article is not for you. Fun fact: Man is gender neutral for humans. Wo-Man is a female human. Were-Man is a male human (hence werewolf)
Excellent.
This is probably one of my favorite articles. You combined rational, cognitive, scientific, spiritual, and animalistic intelligence in a way that delivers a loud and clear message of divinity. That’s what I got from it. This article tickled my curiosity and frontal cortex beautifully. For a youngin’ you sure do write well 😉😘.