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Rebecca Early's avatar

This is my favorite essay yet. It made me laugh out loud thinking about someone calling out my uncontrolled behavior at work. I think you are a little hard on parents and kids that use ADHD to get accommodations. Without accommodations some kids couldn’t graduate high school. Smart But Scattered is the best book on the topic that I know. Academically coaching a scattered and gifted kid has been the most difficult project I’ve ever managed. Knowing greatness is possible I’ve set my need for a hug aside and been the bad cop. I’m sad and alone but for my daughter I would do it all over again.

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Digging up Rocks's avatar

I should have been diagnosed in my early teens or pre-teen years. In high school, over 30 years ago, a special superlative in our senior yearbook was given to me: "biggest procrastinator". It was kind of hurtful, but also true. While my grades were exceptional, I often turned work in on the day of assignment, having written it minutes before class started. I have struggled with that, and other traits of ADHD my whole life, until a coworker noticed and asked if I ever had been evaluated. So in my mid-40s, I got evaluated and CLEARLY met the criteria and then some. A whole new world opened for me and it's been amazing ever since I started on focalin. This diagnosis came after my two boys were recommended for diagnosis and treatment by several teachers. They both also CLEARLY have ADHD and function much better with medication and environmental structure. Grades are much better and focus on what's important is much better. They do not take medication over the summer, except for when they might have an athletic or academic "camp", they need to attend. During the summer, their personalities are much the same as when on ADHD meds, but everything about them is messier and less focused. They will go out to play with friends and not come home until well after dark, way past their time to come home. Their rooms are unacceptably messy, rules are not followed, etc All hallmarks of ADHD. We don't medicate these issues in the "off-season", but do discipline them. It can be frustrating but it's necessary to give them breaks. As for me, my work research has picked up, I have published more than ever, and my intraoperative skills are insanely better. Anesthesiologists are multitaskers, and when I'm medicated my focus is laser sharp on what it needs to be. Now, do I see others diagnosed and taking meds that are misdiagnosed? absolutely. But that is between them and their PCP or psychiatrist. My job is to safely get the through surgery. But I notice it.

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